10 Things Women Hate About Men

Things Women Hate about their Men

Be it a wet towel on the bed or making disparaging comments about your TV habits, your man knows very well how to get on your nerves, isn't it? But you are not the only one, as there are some standard habits men have that annoy women to the core. Christina Hopkinson, author of the book 'The Pile Of Stuff At The Bottom Of The Stairs', tells you the top ten things that women hate about men.

Disparaging comments about our TV habits 
 
OK, so nobody ever claimed that the Sky Living channel was great art, but is a televisual diet of America's Next Top Model and repeats of Grey's Anatomy really so much worse than watching endless sports programmes?

Yes, it's true that all reality talent shows are almost identical but it could also be argued that a nil-all result in the Premiership doesn't exactly rival Shakespeare for drama.

Women believe that the size of your TV is in inverse proportion to the size of your brain, while their men seem to think that some other screen-size/body part correlation is going on and so opt for the full-on Odeon surround-sound experience. 


The surprisingly wiry 'wireless' home 
 
One mobile phone, one charger-it's all you need. But no, he has wires crawling round the house like vines. Then are the drawers full of old cables that look like nests of vipers. Some of them are for his first Nokia, bought circa 1995.

These phone, camera and computer chargers have joined old keys as things we can no longer throw away for fear that the moment we do so, we'll discover a need to use them. 


Selective greenness 
 
We all try to do our bit for the environment, but there seems to be some disagreement about what 'bits' to do. Yes, he's right that cut flowers flown from Kenya are an eco-disgrace-but they are rather lovely.

And yes, clothes can be air-dried, but it's just so much more convenient - and they feel nicer - if you use the tumble dryer. 

Leaving pans 'to soak' 
 
Washing up means doing everything-including saucepans. But he always leaves them on the side, or marginally better, he puts some tepid water in them 'to soak', thus divesting him of all responsibility of actually dealing with the burnt-on food that's clinging to them like Araldite. 


Culinary grandstanding 
 
Guests coo over his fancy ways with a flavored oil, but the boring rehashing, reheating and pureeing always gets left to me. 


Stacks of coins everywhere 
 
There's a stack of money on the chest of drawers and a hillock of tuppenny bits next to the unpaid bills on the sideboard. We know it's because you need to empty your pockets of it since you don't carry a purse, but perhaps it's time to tidy up and get a man-bag. 



Saying we've run out of something after it's actually run out 
 
"We're out of cornflakes/sugar/bread" said in an offensively accusatory way, as he empties the last of it onto his plate. Always with the subtitle running below it of: 'Can you go out and buy it, I'm far too busy.' This is closely allied to the habit of putting empty food receptacles back into the cupboard or fridge, especially milk bottles. 


Childcare cherry-picking 
 
Doesn't he ever realise that if he stood on the mat after a shower then the bathroom floor wouldn't be permanently pockmarked with puddles?

One of the undoubted advances of the modern world is that fathers are much more hands-on with their children. Sadly, he hasn't realised that looking after children is not just parks, pools and zoos - it's also wiping, washing and cleaning. You can't just pick off the best stuff, leaving us to do the grunge. 


Wet towels 
 
Doesn't he ever realise that if he stood on the mat after a shower then the bathroom floor wouldn't be permanently pockmarked with puddles? But then these provide useful watering holes for the towels to marinate in when he doesn't hang them back on the rail. Actually that's not fair, he doesn't always leave the towels on the floor, sometimes he leaves them on the bed. Or, after swimming, to mould and fester in the plastic bag that he's used to carry his kit in. 


The pile of stuff at the bottom of the stairs 
 
Even those who live in flats without stairs seem to have a problem with these piles. Those shoes, books and clothes, those empty wine glasses and old magazines, those toys and towels - they're not there for decorative reasons. It's like a conveyor belt for possessions, you see, except that like with all his irritating habits, there's always someone else to sort out the pile for him. 


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When partying at workplace

Partying at workplace

Parties at the workplace can be a tricky area to navigate. We've always been told not to mix our office lives with the afterhours fun. But falling into the grey area between work and play are office parties. It is important to be seen at office parties, even if only for some time. Don't show up and you could be seen as a spoilsport and uptight. Besides, you may miss out on an excellent opportunity to network!

Time it right

Your office is organising a party on Friday night. You can think of a million better ways to spend that time. So, how important is it to attend the party? Very important. Tempting as it may be to feign illness or other commitments, the loss will be only your own. Office parties are a chance to network and bond with others from the organisation. As we all know, knowing the right people is critical to organisational growth today.

Networking wise

Speak to different people, especially those from departments other than your own. This is perhaps the best chance to get to know some of your colleagues in a causal, relaxed setting. Make an effort to speak to spouses of colleagues. An office party is one of the few occasions when people let their guard down at the workplace and are willing to mingle and joke about. The entire mood is light and laidback. The usual office rules don't apply and everyday dynamics are suspended. Speak to new people; don't stick to the colleagues you already know well. Try to strike up a good conversation with your superiors as well.

Avoid excesses

Stick within generally accepted limits of decency and appropriateness. Avoid excesses - alcohol or food. While the open bar and delicious buffet line may be extremely tempting, control your urges. It is also not okay to dance on the table, however well you may dance. While you may be remembered as the star of the party, it may prevent the management from taking you seriously in the future. Remember, you are always being watched. You are in the same room as the senior management and your boss' boss. Have fun, but be level headed about it. A good workplace reputation is built slowly and steadily over time but easily destroyed.

Conversation capers

Don't forget the best way to strike up a conversation - making eye contact with the person and smiling. The usual rules of conversational etiquette apply here too. Stay clear of controversial areas like religion, politics and gender. While humour always works, jokes that may be offensive should also be avoided. When I first started working and going for office parties, I was always unsure what to talk about, especially since I was so junior. I then hit upon the secret to any successful office party conversation: ask the right questions and let the other person talk. Everyone likes an interested audience!

Extend the conversation beyond office work and current deadlines. Talk about common interests and passions like sports, music or movies. Once you establish some sort of common ground, you will always have something to share with that colleague even during the everyday office routine.

Dressing diaries

Dressing for an office party is often a sticky question. You don't want to look underdressed, nor do you want to be the office Christmas tree. Collaborate with a few other colleagues, so you all dress to a similar level. Avoid jarring colours or designs that expose too much skin. Make an effort to dress up and look nice. The entire point of an office party is to get noticed. Ask yourself, would your CEO be more likely to chat with a well-presented employee or one who is shabby and indifferent?

An office party can be a great time to further relationships at the workplace. If used wisely to connect with the right people, it may the best thing that ever happened to your career.

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Can colleagues be friends?

Friends at Office

Your best friend has got a new job and now he is your teammate at work. But wait is it really a reason to rejoice? It is often said that when you mix your personal and professional life, things get a little difficult to handle. So, can your workplace attract fair weather friends? Or will the political undercurrents run it down? 

It's a little tricky situation as at one point of time you are treading on delicate ground, and in the other you are like soul mates. When friends become colleagues, many often tend to mix up the two. That's where they go wrong. If you have had a heated argument at work, leave it inside the four walls of your office. Don't let it affect your personal relationship with the person.

I had a friend in my subordinate. My ideas and thoughts never matched. I wasn't even satisfied with the way he executed his work and this led to a lot of arguments and fights. Also, he never considered me as his boss so didn't take my orders seriously which again would lead to a tilt. But once we were out of office we made sure we didn't carry the differences back home.

Many feel that making friends at office will make the work life enjoyable. Making friends at office for me is very important. It helps me perform better as the atmosphere is very clam and less stressful with people who know and understand you. Bad relationships with colleagues hamper your work and can turn a workplace into a nightmare. Of course you cannot get along with everyone at work and there will be an occasional prickly co-worker, but there's little you can do about that.


It is easy to end up as friends in an office set up. Most people do not wish to mix their professional and personal life. It's surprising for me as colleagues are the people with whom you spend the maximum time. So, how can you not turn them into your confidantes?

The reason is cut-throat competition. We are in such a competitive atmosphere that we find it really risky to be friends with someone from our own team. Sharing my personal details or even what I am going through professionally I feel might be used against me. So I consider it 'safe' not to have colleagues as friends but I do not mind making friends with people from other teams. Earlier in my professional life I have faced instances where a friend turned foe. Jealousy and nasty behaviour made our relationship sour. So now I make friends at work provided we are from different teams as misunderstandings are inevitable. There is little you can do about frenemies. Whether it's your friend who is now your colleague or vice versa, one needs to be a tad careful.

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When a Friendship Goes Sour

When a Friendship Goes Sour

When a close relationship suddenly ceases, there is little to prepare for the fallout and hurt which is attached to this loss. Irrespective as to why it broke down, one of the hardest things is accepting the decision and continuing ones life.

Its common for a seemingly close friendship to suddenly derail due to mis-communication, a misguided comment taken out of context or shifting priorities due to life changes. Very often silence and distance extends until neither side is comfortable to broach the gap, feeling its too late to try and patch things up.
Finding yourself in this situation, you may be experiencing a number of thought.

• Being confused about what has happened
• Blaming yourself with questions such as "Why me?" or defensive statements such as "It's not fair"
• Feelings of insecurity "I'll never find another friend like them ever again." "I am a bad friend - No-one will ever want to be friends with me again."
• Repetitious thoughts or reliving last conversations
• Pre-occupation on small or insignificant details

Should you find yourself in this position, try some of these approaches.

Trust your instincts

Women especially are fine tuned into social contexts and instantly know if there is a disruption in the "happy force". In reality, its never 'too late' - make some sort of contact and test the waters. Trust that what you are feeling, your friend may also be experiencing and that perhaps they are unsure of what or how to reach out to you.

Treating the situation with Kindness.

Be kind to yourself, to those around you and to your distanced friend. Acting and speaking out of anger and hurt may result in things being said that you may regret at a later date. Maintain your grace and approach any situation involving your friend with the highest ethical standards you can manage. You are more likely to attract negative attention and perceptions if you surround yourself with a blame or angry approach when anyone mentions your friends name. If you cannot manage a positive approach, remain neutral until you can react in a more positive way. Resist the temptation to bad mouth your friend. Be gentle on yourself and those around you.

Allow yourself to be emotional.

A close friendship claims a large part of your life and when it is suddenly stopped or ripped away, it is just the same to having ones heart broken. Similar to any major emotional loss, you need to allow time to grieve and come to terms with what has happened. Part of overcoming grief is being given permission to be emotional, cry and rant about what has happened.

Develop Routines.

A close friendship is often intertwined with daily routines. Should this friendship now be over, its important to refocus routines rather than allow them to flounder or lead the way to depression. Set up new or different routines in your life which may allow you to come into contact with a different group of people on a daily basis.

Talk it out - either verbally or non-verbally.

It may not be possible to speak to your friend, but its important that your feelings and unexpressed thoughts are conveyed. Start a private journal or write a letter which will never be sent. You may include good memories or outline some of the acts or events which led up to the break up. This may be a forum to ask forgiveness or asking them to seek forgiveness from you. State the terms - no matter how ludicrous - by which you would accept friendship back. You may choose to keep these written thoughts, or in a symbolic act of release - burn the entire sheaf of papers.

Relaxation

Pamper yourself with a long bath, afternoon spent reading, soaking in the pool, getting a massage or doing yoga. Take time out just for yourself and allow the pent up strain, stress and grief to seep out of your body.

Celebrate the good times.

Make a list, scrap book, collection of photographs or stories focusing on the positive, fun aspects of the friendship. Allow yourself to smile and then allow yourself to say goodbye to that chapter in your life.

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Importance of Communication in a Relationship

Communication is a key to any good relation

Every relationship goes through a rough patch once in awhile. It is entirely unavoidable. It is the result of two different people spending a great deal of time together. Eventually, aspects of one's personality will come out that will annoy the other, habits will cause concern, and just simple gestures can turn into a major argument.
When this happens, it does not necessarily mean that the relationship is over. But it does mean that you need to decide to turn your attention to righting what has gone wrong. There are two simple things you can do that will help in solving relationship problems: communicate with your partner and work at making changes.

Communication

The phrase "communication is key" may be somewhat of a cliche at this point, but it is absolutely vital in solving relationship problems. It does not matter how hard you work, what gifts you bring, or what efforts you make if you do not know what is bothering your partner.

Men and women alike can be horrible at this aspect of a relationship, both having a tendency to only hear exactly what they want to hear. Pay attention to the other person's words - not just the gist of what they are saying. Certain wording can give a hint as to deeper problems, and you can often find that what is really needed may not be what has been verbally communicated.

Working on Problems

The other, perhaps harder, part of solving relationship problems is having the willingness to work on those problems. Some want quick fixes - a romantic dinner, a vacation, jewelry - but these are no better than band aids on an open wound. Many times, real, legitimate work is needed.
This is not to say that you should change your personality for your partner, but you do need to be respectful of that person if you wish to remain together. Working on problems can mean anything from starting to help around the house more to attending counseling, but you must do whatever is necessary to address your partner's concerns. If you find yourself unwilling or unable to do this, you should question your commitment to the relationship.

Many problems can be solved simply through better communication and a willingness to work through differences. Making an effort will please most partners, especially if the effort is made relatively early into the problem. While you cannot, and should not, change everything about yourself just to please another person, you should be willing to make sacrifices if you take your relationship seriously.

Just make sure that this process is always a two way street, and many problems can be avoided in the long run.

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Top 9 Tips to Save Your Relationship

A healthy relationship requires effort

I know that having your relationship crumbling before you is horrible... It's probably the worst emotional feeling.. There's nothing concrete and you feel as if you're dead inside... But  you can help yourself get back on track!

Tip #1. Keep a positive mindset.  Couples get back together ALL the time, regardless of their situation.  Remember that.  Recite it.  Let it set you free.

Tip #2. Don't be pushy.  The worst thing you can do is be pushy towards your partner and have them react negatively.  Don't be pushy.  Be structured in saving your relationship.

Tip #3. Learn to communicate your ideas and points in a manner that is easy to be heard.  This ties in with being pushy.  You know how your partner is and you know how they react, you have to "sneak in" the relationship fixing stuff in a positive way so it's taken much better.

Tip #4. Bring in the old great memories!  Go out together if you can and relive some of your memories that brought you together.  Remember how special you are together, and more importantly, remember WHY you are so special to each other.

Tip #5. Kiss!  It's not surprising that most couples going through relationship toughness are barely physical.  Surprise your partner with a quick kiss!  Catch them off guard, make them say "wow, you're spontaneous!" and get some butterflies going.  Your relationship is down, but you are not out!  Do some spontaneous kissing to mix things up!

Tip #6. Smile!  Smiling actually makes you feel better.  Smile at your spouse.  Make them smile back.  Things are tough, but you both are stronger together.  Delight in the fact that you can still smile at each other.  This will do wonders in small steps to getting back into a healthy relationship.

Tip #7. Kissing is great, and a wonderful step, but normal touch is very important too!  Touching actually causes chemical reactions inside your body!  Make sure that you set these off.  Remember why you are meant for each other.  Touch each other, make each other feel good.  Hug each other.  Hugging does wonders.  It's the simple stuff that saves a relationship.

Tip #8.Talk with friends.  Having both sides being able to freely express themselves to friends can make things come full circle and have your issues known among each other.  Save your relationship by sharing your burdens with your friends, and having them help you through the tough times.

Tip #9. Seek counseling.  This may not be for everybody, but it does wonders for some on saving their relationship and marriage.

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Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work

Long distance relationships (LDR) work because of the time and effort put into them. With these two elements coupled with a healthy dose of commitment, you can make your relationship work too! Take a look at 7 tips to make your long distance relationships work:

Tip 1 - There is no excuse for not keeping in touch. Contact with your sweetie can provide reassurance that your LDR is intact. Pretend you're in Kalamazoo and your girlfriend is in Wichita. When you first hooked up you talked to each other all the time. You both knew what each others day-to-day life was like. Now it's two months later and you haven't heard from her in a week; your calls are going straight to voicemail. What's going on? Is she hurt, does she still like you, has she met someone new? The unknown is a powerful beast that can severely damage a relationship, so do what you must to keep in touch.

Tip 2 - Have long distance relationship, will travel. Visit your LDR love as much as reasonably possible. Scheduling time to spend together is another way to reinforce your commitment to the relationship. Set a goal to try to make it happen about every 6 weeks. The key is that you're both willing and wanting to make the sacrifice of time and money to see each other. It makes a bold statement about how important the relationship is...and it gives both of you something to look forward to!

Tip 3 - You don't have to be there to get there! Who says you have to be in the same room to make the lovin' happen? Use this time to be creative with your intimacy. Web cams, cell phones, the Internet, and the like can all be handy tools to create some really exciting intimate moments with your LDR lover. *Disclaimer: Remember to BE WISE AND BE CAREFUL! What happens on the net, stays on the net...forever.

Tip 4 - Romantic moments can be simple and sweet. Your distance beau has a birthday coming up. Unfortunately you can't be there to celebrate with him but you still want to do something sweet. Find a steakhouse in his town that and arrange to have the entire meal ordered and paid for when he arrives. After a long day at work and weeks of missing you, this simple gesture might be just what he needs lift his spirits.

Tip 5 - Know where you stand. Do you know where you stand in your long distance relationship? Do you refer to each other with the same romantic labels? It's especially important to know how your relationship is being defined. Definitions limit ambiguity and provide structure. Are you calling each other friends, girlfriend & boyfriend, friends with benefits? Be sure you're both on the same page about how you refer to each other and your relationship.

Tip 6 - What's the long-term plan? For people in long distance relationship who plan to eventually be together, setting a long-term goal for when the distance living will come to an end is essential. Knowing you have something and someone waiting for you at the end of a year of living apart can make the distance in the relationship a little more tolerable.

Tip 7 - Trust is key. If you don't trust that your LDR lover respects you and your commitment in your absence, think about re-evaluating the relationship. Long distance relationship partners have to be willing to trust each other completely. You have to believe that your significant other has your best interest at heart at all times. When doubt creeps in, problems arise.

Relationships are supposed to be fun. You too can make your long distance relationships work with time, effort and commitment.

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Life After an Affair - How to Recover

Life After an Affair

For several women with cheating spouses, life after an affair is probably the most difficult to deal with. After all the pain and misery that you have gone through, here you are, looking at the man you married in a totally different light, and faced with a question on whether you can still go on with your married life in a normal way. Read the following advices to guide you with how to deal with your marriage life now that your husband has ruined your trust in him.

Reconciliation Should Be a Mutual Effort

Your husband may have ruined your trust in him for having cheated on you, but there are reasons behind his infidelity. If you feel that you are at fault why your husband has decided to look for someone else, then you must be able to ask forgiveness from him, in the same way that you also forgive him for what he has done. Reconciliation should be the first step in moving on with your married life, and soon enough, you will be able to bring back the trust that you once have for him.

Set Clear Guidelines with Your Husband

If you find it hard to move on with your marriage life because of your husband's affair in the past, I suggest that you set clear guidelines with him in order to straighten things out. Be open about your feelings - let him know what makes you feel upset and ask him to assure you that he will not do the same mistakes ever again. Learning how to compromise with your husband is very important in order for you to regain back the trust and respect that you once had for him.

Make Some Efforts to Forget Everything

It is hard to forgive, but it is much harder to forget. But if you really want to save your marriage even after your husband has cheated on you, then you have to make some efforts to heal your heart in order to forgive your spouse and eventually forget what he has done. There is nothing wrong with giving second chances, especially if it is for the benefit of your marriage.

Consider Marriage Counseling

If after all the efforts you still feel that you are struggling to move on with your marriage life because of what your husband has done, it's time that you seek help from the professionals. Talk to your husband about the possibility of going for a marriage counseling. Sometimes, it is hard to solve your marital problems on your own - you need guidance from people who are experts on dealing with these things.

Hopefully, all the tips mentioned above could help solve your marital bliss and regain the trust that you once had. Forgiveness is actually the most important thing to do in order to move on right after your troubled marriage life. And more importantly, make sure that you and your spouse must work hand in hand in facing this marriage crisis of yours.

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A Girl's Definition of Love

True definition of  Love

Love is a feeling of completeness that gives a reason to live not for one's own self but for someone else. True love seeks no condition. A person in true love not hunt for his own benefit. True love cannot be experienced by each and everyone on this earth. All of us fall in love with a particular person in our life but very less could actually get united. I am in love with someone, I just want to see smile on his face. I can do everything for his happiness. I don't want someone else in my life, He is everything for me. When world seems to be tired, upset and sad to me sometimes, It comes in my mind ,why should we want to live tomorrow? It is for the divine love that gives us a motive to breathe today. I want to live forever because of that love. I want to be loved by him today, tomorrow and forever. I want to live because there is someone who loves me, someone I wish to see whenever I'll open my eyes as well as love him back. I don't know about our future, If he wants me in his life for forever, I will always be there for him. And I am sure God will do something for us in his own ways. There are many people who might be don't want to see us together. I don't care for anybody. I have trust in God and in my love.

True love never asks for any of your traits but accepts you as you are along with your positive and negative attributes. Being in true love is such a divine feeling where you will unsurprisingly lay down your own comfort for the safety and happiness of your love. It is a strength in itself. True love is also termed as unconditional love which is a strong bond between lovers. That's what I feel for him, I am sure and i have trust in my feelings, he also love me the way I love him. A simple smile on his face always take me to the new world and I always want to live in the new world.

I am not bothered about anyone who is attracted to me; I'll have only one yearning to rest in his arms, no matter how hard my day has gone but just a thought of his will bring smile on my face. He seems to be the perfect human to me. True love is all about making sacrifices and giving yourself completely without any expectation. Finding and keeping love is not just a romantic idea.For me love is not about spending some moments with him, it's not about lending an ear to what others say about both of us; it's not about asking for the anything in return. It happens when I feel that my life is miserable and meaningless without that person, when I feel distressed and lonely not because I miss him but because I am worried whether my love is in need of me. When love happens you will want to hold your love in your arms for all the eternity, forever in your warm instances and you'll wish that your time with your love never ends. Yes it is..

True love is not always about having a candle dinner, going somewhere, parties or exchanging the most expensive gifts with your love. It means much more than that. Love cannot be measured neither can it possessed by speaking romantic songs. Age, looks, social status, what others think about you two, all these societal issues doesn't matter in True Love. It is an unconditional feeling that inspires, revives and even sometimes hurts. I don't have reasons for loving, I just do...and I do.

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How to Get Over a Breakup

Getting over a break up

Everyone dreams of having a perfect relationship. However, it is undeniable that some men and women experience several issues. The typical examples of these issues are infidelity, cheating, and extramarital affairs. These issues may soon lead to the destruction of relationships. Those people who are experiencing this may encounter emotional distress and other undesired effects. Now, if you know some tips on how to get over an affair, you can easily start your new and healthy life.
There are several ways on how to get over an affair. All you need is courage to overcome your situation. If you don't know how to deal with your present condition, the succeeding paragraphs deeply explain the different ways on how to get over an affair.

Take time to heal your broken relationship

Both parties greatly need some time and space. The main purpose of this is to think about their relationship. You can spend an ample time on your work and unwind. As times goes by, you will soon notice that you have already gotten over your broken affair.

Affair acceptance

Once an affair exists, you can't do anything but to accept it. Through acceptance, you can fight your emotional distress and other undesired feelings. In addition, you don't need to start the conversation regarding affairs just to blame your partner. All you need is to find ways on how you can enhance your relationship.

Ensure that the affair is totally ended

Since you already accepted the affair of your partner, all you need is to ensure that your partner has actually ended the relationship with the cheating party. If in case the cheating party still continuous the affair, it merely shows that their commitment level is not worth saving.

Spend quality time together with your partner

One way to heal the broken relationship is through spending quality time together. Some great examples of these are through having a dinner date and other romantic activities. In this simple way, you can rebuild the love and trust with your partner and rekindle the old flame.

It is true that getting over an affair is not so simple. Before you completely overcome your condition, you need to fight your strong emotions, especially your anger. You also need to spend a lot of time to heal your condition. However, there is one main solution for your problem and this is the so-called forgiveness. Forgiveness actually comes naturally and it mainly depends on how your partner responses to your present situation. Once your partner asks for forgiveness, you need to know if he is really sincere. If you think that he genuinely regrets what he did, then, you can give him a second chance.

In any type of relationships especially that of couples, getting over an affair is very essential. Those couples with children greatly need to solve the affairs to secure and save the family.

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How to Reconnect With Your Husband Or Boyfriend?

Reconnecting with Ex

There are times in every relationship when other commitments take priority over your husband or your boyfriend, but these times can hurt a relationship. When you start to notice that you haven't been as close as you once were, you will want to start taking steps that will reconnect you with your partner and re-establish the strong relationship that you once had.

Realize that the mess can wait

Some women believe that they are being constantly judged by how their house or their living space looks. However, this is far from the case. Instead of making cleaning the majority of your free time, why not allow yourself to let more things go at the end of the day to make room for your relationship? Instead of having the laundry always done and the kitchen always shining, isn't your relationship worth the time?

Take time for yourself

Many women will feel more connected in their relationships if they take the time to make themselves look good. Something as simple as getting out of sweatpants and tee shirts at the end of the day and into nice jeans and a well-fitting top can help you feel more confident and thus, more attractive to your partner. You don't have to look like a model, but taking care of your appearance can help you feel like one.

Create a date

At least once a week, you and your partner need to get out of the house and on a date. Too often, long relationships think that they are 'past' that, so they settle into a dull life of staying at home. When you were first dating, you went to the movies and out to eat why not try to do that more now? Sure, you won't be able to do it every week, but if you try, you will both have something to look forward to.

Stop your thinking

Many times, a woman can become frustrated by everything that she is handling, especially when she's a mom as well as a career woman. When this happens, you might feel as though you could scream at your partner for not being helpful enough, romantic enough, etc. But is this really going to reconnect your relationship? It can help to stop your thinking for a few seconds before you share these kinds of feelings. You might find that you're actually feeling something else that's not directed at him.

Put the spotlight on him

When you take the time to do something special for someone else, you will reap the benefits of feeling closer to them as well. Something as simple as packing a lunch or writing a love note in their wallet can be a great way to help your partner know that you care. Everyone likes to feel special.

When you can't get away

It's time to be creative if you're unable to get away from the house. Maybe you can create date night at home, or work together on some goals that you've wanted to accomplish. Play board games do whatever you both like to do together. If you have a home remodeling project, don't leave it just for him, do it together to get more couple time.

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What Exactly Pushes Your Girlfriend Cheating on You?

Cheating GF

Infidelity is never an ingredient of a happy relationship. If you want to prevent your girlfriend from cheating on you, you have to understand the reasons for this possibility. Being proactive is much better and easier than curing the infidelity problem.

She hasn't found satisfaction in the relationship.

Like men, women have different expectations in the relationship. They are slightly different from men, though. They expect to be listened to, cuddled, surprised and respected as a person. They expect someone who understands why she wants a new bag, spends a longer time in front of the mirror and most importantly, what she believes in. If you fail to address her needs, she'll feel dissatisfied and will most likely seek contentment from someone else.

She feels neglected and taken advantage.

Do you appreciate her simple efforts to make the relationship work? Do you compliment her for the cookies she made, gifts she bought and the times she comforted you when you were down? If you don't, she feels neglected in the relationship. If another guy gives her the attention you should have been allotting to her, she'll consider it a form of bait. If you continue to be insensitive, she might walk away from your life.

She's sick of your irritating behaviors.

Women looks for different characteristics in men. Some love the no-secret policy but others dislike those who lack mystery. Some consider their partner a gentleman if they don't pay for their dates but others opt to contribute in paying the bills. Some love guys who makes them laugh but others find seriousness and depth wonderfully challenging. Well, love should not change who you are but for a relationship to exist, you should not forget to compromise. If you don't have this value, you'll end up pestering her with your ways. In effect, she might be tempted to escape from you.

She doesn't find you responsible enough.

You can't take away security as a main requirement women look for in the relationship. A slothful man turns them off. They opine those who lack initiative must be constantly reminded and pushed. If she has to bug you to move from time to time, she'll eventually get weary of your irresponsibility. She'd rather find someone who inspires her with his milestones and achievements.

She feels no more spark.

It may be painful to admit but it's possible for a woman to feel out of love with her partner. No matter how much she tries to revive the spark, she just can't squeeze out a drop anymore. In times like this, she'd love to spend time with friends than with you. When everything else has become dull for her, don't be shocked to know she's going out with another guy.

Now that you're already aware of the reasons why she would cheat on you, you know how to handle the relationship better. You can still do something to prevent her from turning away from you by considering her needs and being the best that you can be.

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