10 Things Women Hate About Men

Things Women Hate about their Men

Be it a wet towel on the bed or making disparaging comments about your TV habits, your man knows very well how to get on your nerves, isn't it? But you are not the only one, as there are some standard habits men have that annoy women to the core. Christina Hopkinson, author of the book 'The Pile Of Stuff At The Bottom Of The Stairs', tells you the top ten things that women hate about men.

Disparaging comments about our TV habits 
 
OK, so nobody ever claimed that the Sky Living channel was great art, but is a televisual diet of America's Next Top Model and repeats of Grey's Anatomy really so much worse than watching endless sports programmes?

Yes, it's true that all reality talent shows are almost identical but it could also be argued that a nil-all result in the Premiership doesn't exactly rival Shakespeare for drama.

Women believe that the size of your TV is in inverse proportion to the size of your brain, while their men seem to think that some other screen-size/body part correlation is going on and so opt for the full-on Odeon surround-sound experience. 


The surprisingly wiry 'wireless' home 
 
One mobile phone, one charger-it's all you need. But no, he has wires crawling round the house like vines. Then are the drawers full of old cables that look like nests of vipers. Some of them are for his first Nokia, bought circa 1995.

These phone, camera and computer chargers have joined old keys as things we can no longer throw away for fear that the moment we do so, we'll discover a need to use them. 


Selective greenness 
 
We all try to do our bit for the environment, but there seems to be some disagreement about what 'bits' to do. Yes, he's right that cut flowers flown from Kenya are an eco-disgrace-but they are rather lovely.

And yes, clothes can be air-dried, but it's just so much more convenient - and they feel nicer - if you use the tumble dryer. 

Leaving pans 'to soak' 
 
Washing up means doing everything-including saucepans. But he always leaves them on the side, or marginally better, he puts some tepid water in them 'to soak', thus divesting him of all responsibility of actually dealing with the burnt-on food that's clinging to them like Araldite. 


Culinary grandstanding 
 
Guests coo over his fancy ways with a flavored oil, but the boring rehashing, reheating and pureeing always gets left to me. 


Stacks of coins everywhere 
 
There's a stack of money on the chest of drawers and a hillock of tuppenny bits next to the unpaid bills on the sideboard. We know it's because you need to empty your pockets of it since you don't carry a purse, but perhaps it's time to tidy up and get a man-bag. 



Saying we've run out of something after it's actually run out 
 
"We're out of cornflakes/sugar/bread" said in an offensively accusatory way, as he empties the last of it onto his plate. Always with the subtitle running below it of: 'Can you go out and buy it, I'm far too busy.' This is closely allied to the habit of putting empty food receptacles back into the cupboard or fridge, especially milk bottles. 


Childcare cherry-picking 
 
Doesn't he ever realise that if he stood on the mat after a shower then the bathroom floor wouldn't be permanently pockmarked with puddles?

One of the undoubted advances of the modern world is that fathers are much more hands-on with their children. Sadly, he hasn't realised that looking after children is not just parks, pools and zoos - it's also wiping, washing and cleaning. You can't just pick off the best stuff, leaving us to do the grunge. 


Wet towels 
 
Doesn't he ever realise that if he stood on the mat after a shower then the bathroom floor wouldn't be permanently pockmarked with puddles? But then these provide useful watering holes for the towels to marinate in when he doesn't hang them back on the rail. Actually that's not fair, he doesn't always leave the towels on the floor, sometimes he leaves them on the bed. Or, after swimming, to mould and fester in the plastic bag that he's used to carry his kit in. 


The pile of stuff at the bottom of the stairs 
 
Even those who live in flats without stairs seem to have a problem with these piles. Those shoes, books and clothes, those empty wine glasses and old magazines, those toys and towels - they're not there for decorative reasons. It's like a conveyor belt for possessions, you see, except that like with all his irritating habits, there's always someone else to sort out the pile for him. 


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Top 9 Tips to Save Your Relationship

A healthy relationship requires effort

I know that having your relationship crumbling before you is horrible... It's probably the worst emotional feeling.. There's nothing concrete and you feel as if you're dead inside... But  you can help yourself get back on track!

Tip #1. Keep a positive mindset.  Couples get back together ALL the time, regardless of their situation.  Remember that.  Recite it.  Let it set you free.

Tip #2. Don't be pushy.  The worst thing you can do is be pushy towards your partner and have them react negatively.  Don't be pushy.  Be structured in saving your relationship.

Tip #3. Learn to communicate your ideas and points in a manner that is easy to be heard.  This ties in with being pushy.  You know how your partner is and you know how they react, you have to "sneak in" the relationship fixing stuff in a positive way so it's taken much better.

Tip #4. Bring in the old great memories!  Go out together if you can and relive some of your memories that brought you together.  Remember how special you are together, and more importantly, remember WHY you are so special to each other.

Tip #5. Kiss!  It's not surprising that most couples going through relationship toughness are barely physical.  Surprise your partner with a quick kiss!  Catch them off guard, make them say "wow, you're spontaneous!" and get some butterflies going.  Your relationship is down, but you are not out!  Do some spontaneous kissing to mix things up!

Tip #6. Smile!  Smiling actually makes you feel better.  Smile at your spouse.  Make them smile back.  Things are tough, but you both are stronger together.  Delight in the fact that you can still smile at each other.  This will do wonders in small steps to getting back into a healthy relationship.

Tip #7. Kissing is great, and a wonderful step, but normal touch is very important too!  Touching actually causes chemical reactions inside your body!  Make sure that you set these off.  Remember why you are meant for each other.  Touch each other, make each other feel good.  Hug each other.  Hugging does wonders.  It's the simple stuff that saves a relationship.

Tip #8.Talk with friends.  Having both sides being able to freely express themselves to friends can make things come full circle and have your issues known among each other.  Save your relationship by sharing your burdens with your friends, and having them help you through the tough times.

Tip #9. Seek counseling.  This may not be for everybody, but it does wonders for some on saving their relationship and marriage.

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Life After an Affair - How to Recover

Life After an Affair

For several women with cheating spouses, life after an affair is probably the most difficult to deal with. After all the pain and misery that you have gone through, here you are, looking at the man you married in a totally different light, and faced with a question on whether you can still go on with your married life in a normal way. Read the following advices to guide you with how to deal with your marriage life now that your husband has ruined your trust in him.

Reconciliation Should Be a Mutual Effort

Your husband may have ruined your trust in him for having cheated on you, but there are reasons behind his infidelity. If you feel that you are at fault why your husband has decided to look for someone else, then you must be able to ask forgiveness from him, in the same way that you also forgive him for what he has done. Reconciliation should be the first step in moving on with your married life, and soon enough, you will be able to bring back the trust that you once have for him.

Set Clear Guidelines with Your Husband

If you find it hard to move on with your marriage life because of your husband's affair in the past, I suggest that you set clear guidelines with him in order to straighten things out. Be open about your feelings - let him know what makes you feel upset and ask him to assure you that he will not do the same mistakes ever again. Learning how to compromise with your husband is very important in order for you to regain back the trust and respect that you once had for him.

Make Some Efforts to Forget Everything

It is hard to forgive, but it is much harder to forget. But if you really want to save your marriage even after your husband has cheated on you, then you have to make some efforts to heal your heart in order to forgive your spouse and eventually forget what he has done. There is nothing wrong with giving second chances, especially if it is for the benefit of your marriage.

Consider Marriage Counseling

If after all the efforts you still feel that you are struggling to move on with your marriage life because of what your husband has done, it's time that you seek help from the professionals. Talk to your husband about the possibility of going for a marriage counseling. Sometimes, it is hard to solve your marital problems on your own - you need guidance from people who are experts on dealing with these things.

Hopefully, all the tips mentioned above could help solve your marital bliss and regain the trust that you once had. Forgiveness is actually the most important thing to do in order to move on right after your troubled marriage life. And more importantly, make sure that you and your spouse must work hand in hand in facing this marriage crisis of yours.

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